Tuesday, July 05, 2005

Hair Perfectionist

Hi, my name is Cora and I am a hair perfectionist.

The first step is admitting it.

If you know me, you know how I am about my hair. Every strand has it's place. I will spend hours to get my hair to look just the way I want it. Even if it takes washing it 2 or 3 times. If you see me, don't touch my hair. I hate the wind for the simple fact that it blows my hair around and messes it up. I've had friends tell me to loosen up and let my hair be free. But I can't. I just can't. My hair has to be perfect when I walk out the door. Not a hair out of place.

My hair has been blonde most of my life. As I am getting older, though, it is getting browner. I have always liked red hair. I always thought it would be fun to have red hair. A friend of mine gave me red hilights and it looked pretty good. In fact, I liked it so much, I thought it would be fun to become a red-head. So, I had my fried dye my hair red. What a mistake! More like orange. It was hideous. So, I asked her to please fix me. She tried, bless her heart. She said we should bleach it to get the color out. So we did, twice. Nevertheless, I was now a bleach blond with red hi-lights. I begged her to go the store with me and help me find a color to cover it up. We picked out a beautiful color. Only it didn't do a thing. I was left with bleach blonde hair with red hi-lights mixed with a little brown. By now, I had taken up my friend's whole day and felt I should leave her alone. I left her house to go home looking in the mirror at every stop light and stop sign to see if maybe it would change a little before I got home. No luck.

My husband and kids were very gracious to me when I got home as were my friends at church the next day. I didn't accept their compliments very graciously as I just wanted people to leave me alone. For those of you out there, please forgive me for my rudeness on Sunday.

That night, my friend came over to my house to play cards. As she was leaving to go home, she told me she was going to the store and wanted to know if she could pick up another color for me so we could color it again at her place the next day. With a huge smile, I accepted her offer.

Needless to say, when I got to her house the next day, she was ready for me and we colored it yet again. The end result is a color pretty close to my original color.

So, let me tell you a few things that I have learned through this experience: don't be a hair perfectionist as it will rule your life; it's okay to let your hair loose and let the wind blow it; they say the messier the hair, the better; my husband loves me no matter what my hair looks like (even if it is orange).

Here's the greatest thing of all: God made me a hair perfectionist and He loves me!

11 Comments:

At July 05, 2005 6:19 PM, Blogger Kim said...

You're cute Cora. hehe

 
At July 06, 2005 1:12 PM, Blogger Fran said...

I'm glad to see you admitting your problem openly! We were about to stage an intervention!

You know what? The rest of us love you too! We don't care what color your hair is (especially since some of us have no idea how many colors we've actually been over the years!)

My favorite thing in the world is to have the wind whipping through my hair! I think of it as God running his fingers through it like I do to my kids!

 
At July 06, 2005 1:31 PM, Blogger LAMommyof3 said...

LOL! Well, I'm glad you finally got a color you are happy with. The last time I dyed my hair it was supposed to be blonde, but it turned out a little orange. Then a couple of days later I found out I was pregnant and had to wait a while before dying it again! My roots looked terrible! I haven't colored my hair since! :)

I've enjoyed reading your posts!

 
At July 06, 2005 8:51 PM, Blogger Taryn Miller said...

I think I resemble this post... And man were you ever gracious about that mop o'color you had on your head, you poor thing. I loved going through this mournful time with you though, my dear!! (and glad you learned something.. all i did was a lot of laughing ;) hehehe)

 
At July 06, 2005 11:27 PM, Blogger Kim said...

Taryn!! Are you blogging??

 
At July 07, 2005 9:12 AM, Blogger Christabelle said...

I can't say I've ever had this problem. I don't have time to be a hair snob! Give me a scrunchie and put it in a bun and I'm fine!

Poor Cora, sounds awful! (But somewhat entertaining!) I'm glad you finally have a color you can live with.

 
At July 07, 2005 10:49 AM, Blogger Cora said...

Oh Taryn! I am so enjoying getting to know you! I just love our friendship! Thank you so much for that day!

 
At July 08, 2005 8:52 AM, Blogger Nancy said...

Cora,

I am a hair perfectionist as well, we can start a support group. I didn't used to be this way, but now I don't like to be exposed to the wind and the rain. I like to watch both from the inside!

I went to a grief group to deal with some unresolved grief with the loss of my Mom and she gave us a book to read called "Motherless Daughters". In this book it talked about how some women saw their Mothers go through chemo and lose their hair, have hair issues. That explained a lot for me!

I have also had mishaps with coloring my hair myself. I wanted to go to a nice rich brown almost mahogony color and it turned out auburnish.

 
At July 08, 2005 3:45 PM, Blogger shannon said...

Very funny, Cora. And you actually looked darling on Sunday! I liked the color. I thought it very unfettered and Bohemian of you. :)

 
At July 29, 2005 10:41 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

hehehehehehehehehehe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!boy isnt Hair Perfectionist such a fitting title...love you

 
At December 01, 2005 2:48 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Cora I just love you!
This is the first time reading your blogs. And I got teary, wow, your uncle Andy and Josh being born and of course your hair, no, I didn't cry at that one. You're Cute!!! Thanks for writing.
Love LaurieW.

 

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